Rape – a word we would rather not speak of!

The-Scream-Painting

Rape. A word that sends shivers down the spine every time I hear it.

Not that any other form of violence is any less traumatic!

But there’s something in a woman’s system that creates an “angry void” when she hears the word “rape”.

For a woman, the unsettling reaction to rape isn’t a reaction to the actual act of rape.

It’s a long “suppressed reaction” to something that runs deeper.

It almost feels like a “hollow scream” from the crevices of her soul! Something that’s painfully present in her journey from being a child to a woman.

The-Scream-Painting
The Scream by Edvard Munch

When she’s just a toddler, she’s just a young child jumping around in her pretty pink frock.

Slowly, the innocent, doe-eyed child observes that the men in her life – neighbours, cousins, friends – don’t look at her (soul or consciousness or mind) when they look at her.

Rather, she’s being looked at for the way her body is becoming.

Even more slowly, the girl starts to get accustomed to being stared at, leered at, touched, without her consent or interest or even understanding of why it’s all happening in the first place.

Sadly, the final act of being born as a “woman” does not happen when she becomes a financially independent individual in her 20s.

It’s that fleeting moment during her “immature teens” when she finally accepts the fact that’s this is how it’s always been, and this is how it always will be.

Not an easy transition into the complexities of womanhood, if you ask me! 🙂

For Asifa, and many toddlers & children like her, perhaps everything got lost at the initial stage of being a young child. May Asifa and likes of her rest in peace and be re-born, if at all, as a boy!

This city is dead and desolate !

Utility Cars, iPhones, 4 BHK;

Insatiety! Greed for accumulated “things”-

The momentary pride of a new car,

Compared to carefree ride on the rusted bicycle!

Disconnected AI of an iPhone,

Versus deep-meaningful, soulful conversations,

Rhythmic “tring-tring” of the landline era!

Comforting memories of a warm-cozy home,

Small kitchen garden, Sparrow for a friend!

Anti-depressants, sleeping pills – in the 4 BHK.

Scattered shit, lifeless kids, out on the street.

Perfumes and incandescent candles,

In the house that’s not home – the 4 BHK!

Countless confusions & counted apprehensions,

Chaos is the namesake,

Of this city that’s dead and desolate!

Nature’s way – a celebratory note!

A starlit gaze,
A glossy red rose,
Endlessly wide horizon.

An owlet’s hoot,
A rainbow butterfly,
Quietest-slumbering valley.

A cow’s gentle moo,
A doe-eyed babe,
Canvas of a scarlet-orangish sky.

Nature’s way – a celebratory note,
Disquieted human mind ruminates thought-stress.

Red rose and Butterfly

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About dream-thoughts and death

A dreamless sleep works perfectly fine with me. A dreamless wakeful state is a perfect bliss! A life devoted to living in the present moment is about being present to each and every breath

Yet, here I am!

After years of “trying to live in the present moment” mania , getting caught in the abyss of the dream-thoughts once again…

A fine wintry morning with the Sun blazing overhead is why India is a curious place to be in.

Winter-morning-Sukhna-lake

But this winter morning isn’t about the Sun or the sunny things.

It is about long-lost human-treasures.

We all lose people at some point of time – to death, to circumstances, to destiny !

But the ones torn apart untimely , sometimes even timely, by death, are hard to let go of. And when you think you’ve forgotten, a confusing dream keeps you sleep-sobbing & wide-awake.

Such dreams allow you to meet the soul-treasure once again, to feel them alive again, to feel that gush of warm-secure blanket of love once more!

The moment feels more real than the day to day life, where we think we are awake!

And once you are awake, a warm awareness engulfs you, – those grandfathers, brothers, uncles are far far away, yet nearer than we’ll ever know.

The bond that is LOVE can’t be broken… The thin thread that gravitates one towards the loved ones can’t be seen or felt…

Just like space – an empty vacuum that envelopes us, whether we can prove it or not… Its absence is an illusion! It’s presence, a fact we miss out, while we get caught in the dreamy haze of thoughts.

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​For the Night is Dark, and Full of Melody!

Naya Nangal

A cricket’s love-laden chirps adds a kind of mystic melody to the quiet night – an ancient love-call for the nocturnals to celebrate the darkened silence of the night.

Notice how the incessant chirping of the cricket is never a disturbing noise! It rather adds a sweet lullaby to the disquieted mind, that quietly numbs one towards a peaceful sleep.

It seems like the chirping adds a kind of  rhythm to the night!

 Like a pre-arranged agreement between nature & its elements, that allows the insect to add a sweet sweet melody to the quietness of the night.

 A perceptive mind can see that there’s a melody even in the constant murmur of a passing river & a gentle drowsiness in the splashing waves of an ocean. 

 Everything is perfect & in complete harmony in mother nature: the sounds, the noises, & the sacred silences!

 But it’s a complete reversal in a the chaotic human mind, a mind which brings disharmony and imbalance in nature & life of all the other beings on the planet.

If only a person could sit silently in the lap of mother nature, gaze at the magical canopy of a startit night, & understand that though the night is dark, it is still full of Melody:

a melody lost to the death-deaf human species ! 

a melody that brings a sense of belongingness to mother nature

a melody with which the ancients were connected to!


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Don’t Quit – An Inspirational Poem

Don’t Quit by John Greenleaf Whittier

” When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns
And many a failure comes about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow—
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the Goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the Struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the Golden Crown.

Success is failure turned inside out—
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell just how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit—
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.”

🙂

The Curious Case of a Writer’s Block

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A writer’s block. A malady understood by only .1% populace. An incurable & inexplicable phenomena that afflicts both the wanna be & the established writers equally.

So, what is it that causes the curious case of a writer’s block?

If creativity is a divine gift , is writer’s block a punishment by a not-so-happy divine hand? 😛

If creativity is 99% practice, how the hell is one supposed to practise the inability to practise something ?

Not-so-easy to answer questions!

Let’s start with the basic one.

What is a writer’s block???

The exact feeling can be figuratively compared to a bad dream where one is falling down a steep hill without any bodily control & wakes up with a sudden jerk.

The meaning of the phrase is the inability to; write a sentence, possess a linear thought process /flow of ideas, or sometimes, a condition when the ability to write even the next word is lost, for a week, a month or, in my case, a number of months now.

It feels like the heart might give away completely the moment the next word will come out of my mouth/ pen. The thing is it is too lame to be expressed, yet happens to the best of us.

“Writing about a writer’s block is better than not writing at all.” 🙂

– Charles Bukowski

I can’t fathom the depths of failure that writer’s blocks brings upon someone. It’s different for everyone. And I’m sure the easy answer is to look at it as a technical issue rather than a psychological one (a reality of over-thinking writers).

But here’s what helps me at times, & I’m sure the answer is different for each one of us.

  • Read a thought-provoking book
  • Solo travel
  • Meditation
  • Strenuous physical activity
  • The art of doing nothing

Any one of the above, or when I am lucky enough, all the above mentioned activities slowly steer me away from the wretched blockage of creative energy, & allows me to relax enough to write naturally.

I guess more or less, the lack of inspiration or monotony is why writer’s block manifests. And doing that one thing that always takes you on a “joy-ride” is the key to unlock the much-dreaded blockage.

Do share your ideas on how you get past your block in the comments section. 🙂

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To write or not to write, that is the question?

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The lost cause of unconditional love

A dogs’ life isn’t long enough for many things. But long enough to do just one thing right – to love unconditionally!

Not a selfish kind of love we humans are accustomed to — where give and take is quantified and measured and the terms of the same are renegotiated every other day.

A dog’s love is playful, fulfilling, & unconditional. Sometimes I feel that the purpose of my life is to create such love and spread it to every being I meet.

But then,  I am not a dog

A fixed dose of judgements, calculations, defensiveness enters my conditioned brain, once I try to become a “Dogable person”.

The dreadful irony is that “mankind” believes itself to be so superior to its earthmates, that even the image of God – a universal energy that created existence – is carved out of the image of a human being, preferably a man.

Even after declaration of the creator God in its own image, a human is incapable of selfless love. Even when one loves one’s kids, it  is with an ulterior motive of finding a helping hand in the wretched old age.

All the other species love & protect their offsprings just as much as required by nature, without expections in future – the kind of love that is self- sustaining, courageous, & unconditional.

But for man, the downfall came when he decided to conquer the elements of nature, & in such a conquiring, imagined itself to be the master of universe.

Maybe a “dog’s love” is a gentle reminder to the decadent human race, of the kind of love we could have been capable of, if we didn’t stumble to the serpentine greed of power and self-importance – the original sin we all are culprit of !

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